Trust!

How do you trust people??? You give your best to engage, connect and go out of the way but it still doesn't stop people from moving on. Even though this thought came up from the current 'Great Resignation Era', I am also thinking from a personal viewpoint. 

The more I think, the more frustrated I get. For example, I have traveled more than a thousand kilometers to meet people and build that rapport. Some of them decided to leave once they got something better and let me know after everything was decided. Just like an FYI! I was annoyed, frustrated, and TBH disappointed in myself. It is the same at the personal end where you go way over your norms to be there, help, spend time, and do not receive much in return. Was the travel worth it, were the people worth it?? How do you trust people, how do you decide who deserves your time? Who actually has your back and who is just taking advantage.

TBH, I do not think I will ever get to know that. If you think about it, I traveled to engage with them and they reciprocated by giving their best at work. They worked wholeheartedly and must have given their 100%. When they got something that suits them better, they moved on. Fair enough isn't it, no hard feelings!

I wish it was as simple with personal relations as there is not much concrete to give or take. Most of it is just time and thoughts that cant be measured easily. I have tried my best to reach out to people, kept ego aside and in most cases have been the first to patch things up, and where I can't, thought about them wholeheartedly. I have missed people I care for more than it is visible, hurt myself more just thinking about it. Strangely, I remember them a lot, even the ones who are no more 😔

This also makes me think of situations where I'm on the receiving end (which is an advantageous one in this conversation). Being an only kid I have always received from my parents and had very less thoughts about giving. Being the apple pie of the family, I have been taking advantage all my life (especially of my parents, wifey, immediate family, and many of my close friends). So much so, I have been a pain to most of my closest friends (I wonder why they chose to go through or still going through that pain). I'm sure there are many who must have gone "is he worth the effort"? Trust me, it was and still is, just hang in there. I'm here coz of that effort, somewhere you have made a difference. I might not say it loud or even be around, but I'll always keep you in my thoughts. Thank you for making me want to be a better man!!!

All we can do is put in the effort and leave the results to destiny. Give your 100% and not expect anything in return (easier said than done). The pleasure of doing good is well worth it. You learn, grow, and somewhere hope the receiver have/had you in their good thoughts 👐