Recently I attended an engagement event of extended family member and was blown away by the scale of it. There were more than 1000 people in a lavish setting. They are a well-off family and can afford the spend, but I was thinking about how this has become an expectation from normal families also.
I have attended birthday parties of kids with 500+ people. TBH, I did my son's birthday with 250+ people and found it super tiring and no joy for the kid.
The expectation of spending $20k on a simple event which is more than what a Government employee gets as retirement benefits after 30+ yrs of service is just ridiculous. I thought covid time events where we had smaller gatherings for celebrations would prevail for longer but looks like large-scale events are back with a vengeance.
The problem I have with large gatherings is the lack of connection and attendance is more of a formality. You cannot spend genuine time with the host or anyone else which makes the entire attendance a waste of time. Everyone is overdressed and uncomfortable just to have a couple of good pics. These pics you will probably never go back to as fond memories. There is a huge platter of food with 50+ dishes to choose from and none of them are good. I'd rather have 2 dishes that can make me feel wow.
That's why I prefer to go to someone's house and spend 2 hrs than going to a lavish restaurant and overeating for the sake of it. The experience is much more personal and you will remember it for a long time.
I wish People have these events with their close loved ones and it is fine if I'm excluded rather than just being a part of a big crowd who do not want to be there. Use the leftover money for a better cause for themself or society than splurging it as a show-off.
Cheers to making it personal and memorable!!!
No comments:
Post a Comment